Usually I ponder if utilized sciences have helped us in making our life simpler or it has made it additional refined. Whether or not or not social media and social functions are imagined to ship us nearer to 1 one different or to drift us apart? What do you will need to find out about an individual sooner than you start giving your perception to them? Do you assume in case you communicate to of us as quickly as in a month, chat with them on WhatsApp each single day and meet them a few instances in a 12 months, is enough to perception them? In case your reply is certain, then study further.
It was Friday evening time at spherical 11 PM as soon as I acquired fairly just a few messages on my WhatsApp from my pal, Sheetal Katkar, asking me to analysis about and get some particulars about Dronesh Mishra, who depends out of Nagpur. I was feeling very sleepy and at the moment of time, I didn’t even care to study your full textual content material.
I do know Sheetal for closing 12 years. We would not be higher of the buddies nonetheless everyone knows enough about each other to swimsuit into the definition of friendship. She is from Nagpur. In closing 12 years, there have been occasions after we didn’t speak with one another for just a few years and there have been occasions after we stayed involved every day for 7-Eight months in a 12 months. Sheetal is 35 years of age and dealing in Bangalore throughout the back-office of a primary monetary establishment.
Subsequent day morning whereas taking my morning tea, I study your full textual content material shared by Sheetal on my WhatsApp. Nonetheless, I decided to verify few particulars sooner than carrying my investigation hat. “Who’s that this Dronesh? Why do you will need to find out about him? How are you aware him?” I requested.
“Dronesh is believed to my sister, Pooja since December 2014. She found him on certainly one of many primary matrimony web sites. Pooja is working with Software program program Enchancment Agency in Bangalore; whereas Dronesh is working in Delhi with an IT giant. They should get married. Solely as quickly as did I meet this man and I found him respectable. He is involved with me through WhatsApp. Nonetheless, we have no idea quite a bit about him. We have no idea his take care of. We don’t find out about his family. And most importantly, we have no idea if he is single or already married,” she summarized.
“What are you privy to this man”?
“What does Pooja find out about him? How usually do they meet?”
“They’ve met on few occasions. They usually stayed involved through WhatsApp, Google Converse, and day-to-day phone calls. She is conscious of about his family. He has widow mother. She is conscious of about his job and about his future plans, and so forth. Having recognized to 1 one other for closing one 12 months, now they should get married. Even his mother is asking him to get married shortly. He is already 35 years of age; whereas Pooja is 31 years outdated”.
“Okay. Message me his contact particulars”.
After about half-an-hour, I known as her up.
“Sheetal, this man doesn’t seem to exist. There is not a one with this title on Fb, or Twitter, or LinkedIn, or Instagram, not even on any Job Portal”.
“That’s what. He isn’t on social media web sites. He says that he don’t want to be on FB and Twitter, it’s waste of time. He doesn’t should be on LinkedIn on account of he doesn’t need it. That’s the drawback. How can we uncover out about him with out his information? We would not have frequent associates. Pooja has already spoken to our dad and mother they often have given expressive approval nonetheless even they need to meet his family and parents”.
In at current’s world, when CEO’s of Fortune 500 corporations are on LinkedIn; when everybody appears to be on FB and Twitter, he is not there. He is working for an IT group. That may be very uncommon. Nonetheless what should I do now? That’s my drawback.
Let’s take help of 1 different App, Truecaller. As I key throughout the amount, I found the title of some Ranjeev Singh Thakur. I assumed maybe Dronesh has taken help from his colleague or pal to get a phone amount on their title, almost definitely when he was new to Delhi. Nonetheless it made my work a bit more durable. The Social id of Ranjeev Singh Thakur can each be Ranjeev Singh Thakur, or it could be Ranjeev Singh or maybe Ranjeev Thakur.
On LinkedIn, I found FIVE profiles with the title of Ranjeev Singh Thakur – TWO profiles with Present Footage (DP’s) and THREE with out Present Footage. I downloaded every DP’s and despatched to Sheetal and requested her to find out if one amongst them is Dronesh. To my shock, she acknowledged one amongst them as Dronesh.
“Are you sure”, I requested. In a case of any doubt, ask your sister to reconfirm.
After half an hour, she known as once more and reassured one amongst them as Dronesh.
For a second, I was speechless and didn’t know one of the best ways to react and what to say. The person Pooja was meeting as her attainable future husband, Dronesh was in precise Ranjeev Singh Thakur. He wasn’t working with IT giant, as claimed by him nonetheless working with a Financial Service Agency as House Product sales Supervisor.
Anyhow, I known as up every the sister, took them in a conference title and broke the data. They’d been equally shocked as I was.
One different indisputable fact that I found from his Twitter publish was a indisputable fact that he was married 2011. Whether or not or not he is nonetheless married or not, I am not sure nonetheless he was married in 2011. Ranjeev has created a Gmail account with the title of Dronesh Mishra and he was using this id to register on matrimonial and totally different social web sites. By way of this id, he was talking with as a minimum ELEVEN females from all through India.
On the end of it, I was uncertain of my emotions. Should I actually really feel happy to have saved the lifetime of a female OR should I actually really feel sad for creating additional points for her?
The investigation was one part of this story. The delicate and further dangerous half was the confrontation, realization, and acceptance. At first, Dronesh refused to easily settle for his id as Ranjeev. Nonetheless after we requested him to level out his passport or Pan Card or Monetary establishment Account Assertion, he accepted it. He apologized to Pooja and requested her to marry him. He further said that he has divorced his partner in 2013.
Pooja was hurt. She felt cheated. She didn’t want to keep up any communication with him. As we’re saying throughout the language of social media, she blocked his amount. He wasn’t a easy web to crack. He began to stalk her. He threatened her to leak their intimate pictures and flicks on the internet. Lastly, we took the help of police. On the time of writing of this story, he is in jail for closing SIX months.
From this case, few points are very clear –
1) Though there usually are not any correct or incorrect strategies of relationship and whereas relationship you don’t carry decide or take care of proofs. However, I really feel you would discover the precise id of an individual after 2-Three conferences.
2) On one side, the place social media has given a platform to increase your visibility and create your non-public mannequin; it has moreover given new masks to fraudulent of us and criminals to cowl their id.
3) We dwell throughout the age of selfies; the place we want to seize all of the items spherical us, capturing our every specific second, however, use your non-public judgment to find out the street of administration. You needn’t seize all of the items.
4) It does not matter what’s your age; relationship enchancment takes time. The place you uncover someone dashing into points then that may be a signal to be able to be alert and extra cautious. Relationships are one different title of persistence.
5) Lastly, break-ups, hurts, dishonest, are elements and parcel of life. Don’t let it dent your passion for all instances and love to your self. It is not an end of a world. It is a new beginning.
Had you been throughout the place of Pooja, how in any other case, you will have handled this instance? Do you assume she could have handled in a higher or a definite method?
(This story depends on an actual incident. Names of people and places have been modified to protect the id.)